Things we need to leave in 2014

As the new and exciting year of 2015 draws near, I can't help but reflect on the moments, trends and people that have become the highlights of  the last 365 days, 52 weeks, 12 months of 2014. We all love to use the new year as a way to start new hobbies, lose weight, tick items off bucket-lists or break bad habits.

As you turn over the a new leaf, why not throw the old leaf away? Ah if only it were that easy my friends... creating a list of what I wish could be left behind in 2014 could be as worthwhile as emptying a pool with a teacup. If I had any power over society, I would try my best to make sure all of the following no longer existed in 2015. I personally think you would all be very grateful with the changes I would make. Here goes!

Beat the Boredom

Oh the irony of finally having a holiday and a break from work over the festive season, only to find that you are bored out of your skull and you have watched every series and movie on your laptop in the last 3 days (been there). We are so used to these fast and furious action-packed lives, going from work to gym to all those other commitments we have filled our plate with. No wonder we feel numb with boredom when the madness finally stops and we have a few days off!

The importance is not to fill your days up being so busy that you actually burn out, or just sit on the couch all day. Find a combination of relaxing and fun activities to do that are also constructive, and you will end your holiday feeling accomplished and rested. Here is my list of fun Christmas holiday activities to do with family, friends or by yourself.

Make Christmas tree decorations

If you are falling short on Christmas decorations for your tree this year, don't go out and buy more. Rather make them yourself as a fun activity and add a sentimental touch to your tree. Whether you do it yourself or get children or friends to help for the day, there are so many ways to create fun and easy decorations. You can use felt, paper, pine cones, fruit or ribbons. You can even personalise decorations with names of family members.

A personal favourite of mine is these easy-to-make polystyrene glitter balls:

• cover a small round polystyrene ball with craft glue
• roll ball around in glitter until all surfaces are covered
• Use a pin to secure a folded piece of ribbon or string at the top of the ball to hang on the tree

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How to pack for a beach holiday

There are only 5 sleeps left until I go on holiday to Ponta Malongane in Mozambique! A beach holiday is my type of holiday, and what better beach than Mozambique, which is only a 6 hour drive for us, north west (haha) of South Africa. With white sand beaches and a vast 2500km coastline,  as well as the infamous R&R's and the friendly locals, this holiday destination is popular to say the least. I have been waiting for my long break over the festive season for weeks, and with only a few days remaining my holiday planning begins!

When I say holiday planning, what I actually mean is packing. Us girls know how important this is, especially if you are going away for 2 weeks like I am! I am a fantastic packer, and so often people look in disbelief when I show them how light I pack, whilst still being able to wear something different each day. If packing was a job, I would be an expert in my field! 

I have compiled a list of summer holiday must-haves to pack for a getaway, a local beach, or anywhere hot and sunny. There is no need to pack too much, or pack items that don't actually match anything else. When I am back home next year (how crazy does that sound??) I will make sure to have a post of my holiday photos and Mozambican experience!

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All white arrthang

I love white! It is possibly my favourite colour to wear because it is crisp, classy and versatile. The trend of wearing white-on-white comes and goes in the fashion world, but I personally think it should be a consistent staple. The difficulty with wearing two different white pieces in one outfit is that you have to get the correct shade of white for both, or two different textures of white pieces. Lace and linen, for example, is a beautiful combination.

It is a huge fashion faux pas if you wear white with off-white or cream. I know Kim K has tried it but I personally think it looks tacky if you are not wearing designer brands from head to toe. Whether it is a pair of white tailored shorts with a white top or a pair of white skinny jeans with a white blazer, there are many white-on-white variations. When wearing a full white outfit it is best to add simple accessories such as a tan/leather handbag or black strappy heels. A leopard print detail is also very stylish.

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My Christmas Wishlist

I don't usually have a list of requirements for Christmas and my birthday, I like being surprised and if I specifically want something I usually buy it myself. This year, however I would like to compile a wishlist of coveted items to inspire those out there that are stumped as to what to get their girlfriend/sister/friend/wife. Here is some girl gift buying inspiration for you, and most of these gifts are not break-the-bank prices. After all, what is Christmas without a bit of giving and receiving?

Slouchy Pants

I don't know if 'slouchy pants' is the correct term for them but that's what I am calling them at least! I can't tell you how comfortable and light-weight these pants are, they are like day time pajamas except no one will give you funny looks. They are light-weight and perfect for summer, and they can sit on your hips or on your waist depending on what look you want to go for.

I personally prefer a simple monochrome pattern on the pants, paired with a solid colour on top, but pretty much anything goes here. If you want to mix one pattern with another on top then choose wisely! They are so versatile, and can be worn with strappy heels or flats (birkenstocks look great paired with them).

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Crop top Crazy

Crop tops are no longer just for teenagers and pop stars, they have evolved to stylish, classy and flattering (yes, it's true). Following from the matchy-matchy trend, teaming crop tops with long skirts and high waist pants or shorts are a fashion do. Well structured crop tops emphasize your waist and create an instant hourglass figure when teamed with hip-skimming skirts and pants.

You can choose to show a bit of skin or combine two items where the top just covers the bottoms. Mix bold colours with patterns, or two shades of pastel for an overall put together look. Add a belt to the bottom half or a statement necklace to add detail. The best types of crop tops are those that look like shortened t-shirts, as they flatter arms and add a casual touch. The latest trend of the cross-over crop top is also a popular choice. Keep it classy ladies, lets not get crazy showing too much skin!

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A letter to my future child

Dear Charlotte/Hunter/Rome/Saige/Branson/Everleigh/Tanner/Vivienne

Those are my favourite names for non-existent future you, which future me will probably have a good laugh at no doubt. Whatever we decide your name to be, it will become your identity for the rest of your life so no pressure on me or anything!

I think so often of what you will be like one day, whether you will be extroverted or shy, have dark hair or blonde, be good at maths (no thanks to my genes) or artistic, and whether I will see parts of me in your personality . I thought that it would be an opportunity missed if I didn't give you the chance to meet 23 year old me, who is currently writing at her desk in her office in Pietermaritzburg, South Africa.

Wardrobe Essentials

My style is kind of preppy/minimalist, and I stick to black, white, navy and a splash of colour in accessories on most days. I wouldn't call myself the most daring individual when it comes to fashion, I like to stick to what I know I look good in.

This is my personal list of what I think every girl should have in her closet. These essentials never go out of fashion and can be paired with almost anything. They are the go-to items you should own that will never let you down. Make sure that you invest in good quality pieces that fit perfectly, and buy cheaper seasonal accessories to accompany them.

The White Shirt
This goes without saying, top of the list! A crisp white shirt is without fail the most important item to own. It goes with anything and everything and can be tucked in, layered or accessorized. You will look instantly classy, and effortlessly stylish.

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Lets be kids

In so many ways adults are fixated on being adults. We don't have time for childish endeavors, we don't have the patience to play around or be silly. I shudder to think what a gloomy and depressing world it would be if there were no children! What I have decided is that if you bring certain characteristics of a child into parts of your own life, it will actually bring about positive changes. These are the ways in which adults could benefit from using child-like qualities to remind ourselves how exciting and delightful this world actually is.

French Connection: A tourist in Paris

This was the day in Paris that we decided we were going to be ultimate tourists and see the big 4: The Eiffel Tower, The Louvre, The Arc de Triomphe and The Love Lock Bridge. This would be my chance to collect the iconic pieces of Paris, so that I could put together everything this city means to me. I can't say I was prepared for the ways that this day in Paris would change me, but I can somehow put it into words.

I was wide awake at about 5am, and I could actually feel my heart beating faster than usual. At this point I had only had a taste of Paris, and now was the day to drink it all in. Our small group of travelling compainions decided to leave bright and early to see as much as the hours would allow. We started off our Parisian adventure the best way we knew how- we took a taxi to the Champs-Elysees (pronounces shanzer leezay, isn't French so romantic!). 

The Champs-Elysees is one of the most famous streets in the world, situated along nearly 2 kilometers of central Paris. This was where we browsed the colour-coordinated shops (even the McDonald's sign was the signature white and grey) and took in the prominence of the luxurious restaurants. The smells of the different French patisseries with their inviting glass displays were making all our stomachs ache with hunger, so we stopped at one of the more low-key cafe's, and ordered a cappuccino and a pastry of our choice (a chocolate croissant for me).

Sitting down at a small table with a view of the opulence outside, I finally let it all sink in- I am in Paris, eating a French croissant and sipping on coffee on the Champs-Elysees. It was unbelievable, for loss of a better word.

The Official sign on the Champs-Elysees Street

Body chains for days

Yet again Rihanna has inspired me. She has this way of looking edgy but effortlessly stylish, and I feel that I need to take a leaf out of her fashion book. I love the delicate gold body chains that she wears with everything from bikini's to ball gowns, and I feel that it is only fitting that I get involved with this trend she has started!

Fashionista celebrities such as Kylie Jenner have also been seen wearing them, and it is such a subtle piece of jewelry that it could look good with anything and still be understated. You can even wear it over a plain shirt to add detail. My whole approach is that if you wear it with a bikini it adds that extra glamour to it without looking like you're trying too hard... oh this old thing? Its been on me the whole day.

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If we were all honest for a day...

Ever wonder what would happen if you had no choice but to be honest for a whole day? I personally think the world would blow up. Us humans don't realise how often we lie on a daily basis, whether it is a huge deliberate lie or a tiny innocent white lie. We all do it, and some are better than others! I'm talking to you sweaty-palmed-avoiding-eye-contact liers.

To be honest (haha I know), I think it would get you into a whole lot of trouble, and possibly effect your future. Watch any episode of 'Real Housewives' and you will see where honesty gets you...possibly being kicked in the face with a Louboutin.

Palm tree life

As I have mentioned more than once in my fashion trend updates, summer fashion is extremely literal this season. I'm talking flowers, fruit and palm trees! Pastels and bold colours, monochrome and matchy matchy... its all about making a statement and wearing summer all over us! 

Another popular trend to catch my eye is the palm tree print. It is so feminine and fun, and there are lots of variations from small prints on flip flops to big prints on sun dresses. The palm tree trend is awesome! My personal favourite is the fresh green and white palm leaves, which looks like its straight off the Dolce and Gabanna runway. Here is to a summery outfit full of swaying trees and giant leaves.

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Best Bikini Selection

Summmerrrrrr! My most favourite time of year for so many reasons. The comforting feeling of sunshine on my skin, an ice cold coke by the pool, a long swim in the sea, beach sand between my toes, shorts and hats and sunglasses!

One thing I am still hesitant about, however, is squeezing my body (which has been hidden safely under layers of clothing all winter) into a teeny weeny bikini. Seriously guys, bikinis don't cover much do they? We love to hate them, and this summer I am making peace with the bikini. I have collected a few fashionable and unique bikini style inspo's for you all that are so cool this summer. If you want a variation of styles but don't want to spend too much money, buy one plain bikini and one patterned bikini in similar colours and interchange them with one another. Enjoy!

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10 Things I hate about humans

Do you ever have those moments where you get so infuriated that you actually need to take a deep breathe before you turn into a werewolf? I get you, I really do. Some are small insignificant annoyances and others are huge I-could-turn-into-a-serial-killer triggers. This doesn't make us deranged freaks, it just makes us humans who wish such situations and stumbling blocks of society would go away...forever.

Tips for Summer weight loss

It is officially summer time and what better reminder to start looking after yourself than muffin tops and cellulite Sally! I have been on my own lil weight loss journey since putting on weight over December/January a year ago. This was due to a bad reaction to 'the pill' and eating and drinking too much over the festive season (I can't blame it all on the pill you guys).

How to earn cash and save

When it comes to earning and saving money as a young person, you are highly advantaged in some aspects and slightly disadvantaged in others. Part-time work is reasonably easy to find but the pay is inconsistent, and full time work comes with a long-term commitment and certain requirements such as experience and qualifications.

When I had 6 months to do whatever I could to earn and save money, best believe I got stuck in very swiftly and worked very hard. It was so worth all my efforts because I managed to stay motivated and save even more than I was expecting to! As far as I'm concerned, whether you are fresh out of high school, studying or completed your studies, there is a job (or two) out there for you. You have to start somewhere so don't be too picky, and remember that a job isn't just going to fall on your lap while you're watching series reruns on the couch. Go out there and make some money! Here are some ways you can do so:

The over-sized purse

So I need to make a confession- I HATE HANDBAGS! I don't know if that makes me strange or any less of a girl, but to me there is nothing more irritating than lugging a bunch of crap around, and carrying it on my shoulder. When you think about it, its quite unnecessary to need half the contents of your drawers with you everywhere you go. The kinds of things women insist on keeping in their bags on the reg are actually frightening.

I have come up with a solution that is stylish and effective at the same time. Over-sized purses are the perfect way to keep the bare essentials with you, nothing more. What else do you need other than your money, cellphone, car keys and maybe a lipstick? Gone are the days when clutches and large purses only come out at night- we are bringing them back to day time casual chic.

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Inexpensive Christmas gifts

Working in a newspaper printing company has really opened my eyes to the extent that people go to spend money during Christmas season. The sheer mass of advert increases in the months of November and December just proves the fact that the Christian society of people that celebrate Christmas are conditioned to accept the fact that they are going to spend exorbitant amounts of money this holiday. Well I am here to say that it doesn't have to be that way!

Yes we all love to eat and drink more than we would any other time of the year, and that's okay, but spending ridiculous amounts of money on Christmas presents for every friend and family member is unnecessary. I have always found that the more sentimental a gift is, the more memorable it is, and those DIY or well-thought out gifts are better than costly electronics or jewelry if you ask me (shocking, I know). We all go on about how Christmas is more about our religion and less about presents, so why not prove it by scaling down? Lets instead put more time and energy into gifting this year- I know I am! Here are some gift ideas that are both creative and inexpensive.

So Yesterday Volume 2

This is another update of what is no longer in fashion. Some trends we are sad to see go and others we wave goodbye to happily! I have mixed emotions about these, but they are pretty much done and dusted. Here is what you should stop wearing (or maybe hold onto for a future retro fashion moment).

Sneaker Wedges

I love all kinds of shoes, and I would be lying if I said I didn't feel inspired the first time I saw Beyonce wearing a pair in her music video 'Love on top'. I just had to have them! For some reason I got a mint green pair, which kind of went with nothing in my closet but oh well...sneaker wedges are out! When you think about it, they actually are quite a strange form of sneaker shaped heel. It is also confusing as to how you style them and what you wear them with so as not to look like you belong to a gang. Bye-bye sneaker wedges!

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Types of guys at the club

I have moved away from the club scene since starting a full time job and growing out of all those antics, but that doesn't mean I don't know a thing or two about the stereotypical guys that you will find at any given club on any given night out. For all those single ladies out there trying to suss out the situation as you walk into that dimly lit club with flowing drinks and loose inhibitions, this is my interpretation of the guys at the club that you should attempt to avoid or at least observe for a laugh.

Shoulders out

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The off the shoulder trend is such a fun way of dressing up or down for summer, plus you get to keep cool and show off some skin! I am loving all the feminine trends coming up for summer and this is definitely one of the more exciting options. I have seen these tops and dresses in stores everywhere! Find a style and cut that suits you and show those shoulders.

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Why men and women can't be friends

Oh did I get your attention with that title? I hope so, but let me explain myself. I'ts not to say that men and women don't have the capacity to be friends, I merely think that we are not able to be close friends without complications. This is something that I have only recently figured out, and my observations are my personal opinion so take it with a pinch of salt. This is what I like to call the 'When Harry met Sally' theory.

Tips for going on Contiki

Going on a Contiki trip is possibly the best decision you could ever make as a young student/adult. It is one of the most affordable ways to travel, and it is extremely well-organised with experienced tour-guides, well-coordinated activities and great value for money in terms of accommodation and food.

I would personally recommend this to anyone wanting to see the world on a budget, and between myself and the friends of mine that have also gone, I have only ever heard positive feedback and tons of epic stories! Since I learnt some things the hard way, and did other things right first time round, I would like to give out some helpful advice to anyone who is thinking of going. There is not much that can go wrong, but make the most of your opportunity by being prepared and having an unforgettable experience!

20 Facts about Me

Just so that you can all get to know me on a more personal level, I thought I would share 20 lil facts about me, Sarah. I am definitely a what you see is what you get kind of girl, so a lot of the time the way I write is the way I think out loud too.

I consider my blog a collection of every day moments and authentic topics that I think about all the time- hence the name 'she thinks like me'. I want this blog to be a place where everyone and anyone can spend some time relating, taking note of, agreeing or disagreeing with or just having a look. Whatever you want really! Here goes...

The Bubble Ponytail

The bubble ponytail is so hot right now! What is it, you ask? Think back to those days in junior school when tying a whole lot of elastics in your hair was cool. I sometimes have those mornings before work when my hair just isn't cooperating (this actually happens more often than not) and the bubble pony is the perfect way to tame it. The best way to wear this trend is to use a few strands of your own hair to twist around and cover the main elastic band. This style can be worn in a fun relaxed version during the day, paired with a pretty summer dress, or it can be dramatically done up with an LBD for an evening look.

Olivia Wilde killing it with the chic evening version

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Moving on

Our family are what you would consider 'modern day nomads' to a lesser extent. My parents build and sell houses, and we have lived in over 14 different homes in 4 different cities. This may seem exhausting, unsettling and stressful (and believe me it is all of these things), but moving from one place to another so often has taught me many valuable life lessons, and shaped who I am as an adult.

French Connection: The Streets of Paris

Paris is an enigma in every possible way, where does one start? The city of love, fashion and art to name a few. It is the epitome of sophistication and architectural history. Paris was the first city I traveled to where everything I imagined it would be, it was. All expectations are fulfilled, there is no need for exaggeration whatsoever...

Dream Closets

Since I can remember it has been a fantasy of mine to have a big walk in closet with shoe racks, good lighting, neat colour coordinated clothing and floor length mirrors. Even when I was little I would try and create extra make shift shelves with scrap pieces of wood and blocks. I always think of that Sex and the City scene when Big surprises Carrie with her new closet and that beautiful pair of midnight blue Manolo's perched on a rack inside. A girl can dream right?

I have gathered up a few dream closets for you all to be in awe of, and other closets that are easily attainable to create on a budget. There are also so many ways of incorporating your clothes and shoes into the decor of your room instead of hiding it away behind cupboards. If you have a fancy pair of stilettos, a cool hat or a statement necklace that is just too pretty to put in a drawer, display them in unique ways on hooks, boxes and shelves. I hope you feel inspired!

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Eye print

Style forecast: the eye print trend... unusual, eclectic, fashionable? I am yet to see this trend popping up in department stores but my prediction is that we are going to see a lot of it. Creepy or not, the eye trend is super stylish, so why not be ahead of the game and start searching for items now? I know I am! My favourite is the black and white shift dress with the eye print pattern, very modern and artistic if you ask me. Get involved everyone!

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Things to do in Durban

Oh how I adore Durban! Living there for almost three years allowed me to explore one of the most beautiful and vibrant cities of South Africa. It has so much to offer in terms of fulfilling your every need, whether its a day on the beach or a night on the town. I am very inquisitive when it comes to new places, and so I spent my spare time venturing into the unknown and finding seemingly undiscovered gems, and other very popular places. I am here to be your tour guide through Durban's hot spots and secret spots and tell you exactly how you can make the most of your time there, whether you are a resident or a visitor. Welcome to DBN, my city of choice!

1. The Moses Mabidha big swing

If you're like me, and not so keen on bungee jumping head first off a bridge, but you still want an adrenalin pumping experience you will never forget, then go for the big swing at Moses Mabidha Stadium. First you swing upright above the entire length of the field below you, and then you boast that you went on the worlds tallest swing! This is on my bucket list, and I am going to cross it off before the end of this year. For more information on prices and booking, follow this link:
http://www.mmstadium.com/attractions/big-swing/

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Monochrome Grid

The monochrome grid trend cannot go unnoticed this season. This is one of my personal favorites because I usually always wear black and white, and the grid pattern is easily incorporated into any wardrobe. Because it is a simple pattern, you can accessorize heavily and add pops of colour (monochrome and pink would be the perfect combination). If you want to go the extra style mile, wear a grid pattern skirt/shorts with a matching blazer or crop top and a neutral coloured top- ultimate fashionista!

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Laced up Heels

Laced up heels are the latest heel trend, as worn by countless celebrities and seen on the runway. They are a very sexy style, and elongate your legs with all that extra skin showing through the laces. Laced up heels are elegant and fashion forward, and a really fun option for those summer nights out. They emphasize your feet by adding detail with the laces, and an edgy finish to any outfit. I would personally go for a beige or black pair, and make sure they are the perfect size because slipping out of them is not an option! Paint your toes a pretty colour and lace up those heels!

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All Pink Everything

Fashion Alert!! Pink is the new black-the colour of the season in every shade. Any girl who doesn't follow on this trend will be left in the back seat this summer. Coming from someone who usually sticks to black and white, even I have embraced the pink revolution. It is the girliest and most feminine on the colour wheel, so start looking for your pink items now. You can go full on pink and pastels from head to toe or get some pink accessories to start off with. You decide the dose of pink you can handle! Take some pretty in pink tips from these stylish celebrities.

The mid-length skirt
The 50's inspired Grease skirt is doing its rounds on the catwalk this season, and what better way to combine two trends in one with a pink version like Jessica Alba. They flatter most body types as they emphasize your waist and skim over your hips. Pair it with a crop top or tucked in button-up shirt.

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Hangovers- The curse to humankind

Gone are the days of being a young student who bounces right back after a night of binge drinking at the club. On behalf of all the hard-working people out there, I finally understand you. Us corporate grinders are what I refer to as the 'weekend drinkers'. We work a full time job 5 days a week, only to get to Friday and grab a drink out of the fridge faster than we can put our bags down. Aren't we all grown up?

Canvas shoes

It only takes an episode or two of RKOB (Rich Kids of Beverly Hills #obsessed) for me to know that the canvas shoe is this seasons number one shoe trend, other than Birkenstocks. This summer seems to be all about what we are putting on our feet! I have got so excited with the canvas shoe/plimsoll because it is light-weight, comfortable and goes with everythinggg. There are also lots of variations from leopard print to quilted to snake skin. Keds and Vans are the name brand option, but I have seen generic styles at Legit, MRP and Foschini to name a few. Here are some cute styles

            

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Daisy Darling

I am very excited to announce that if you have not yet noticed the daisy trend taking over the fashion world, now you know! Yellow daisies on white or black backgrounds are everywhere. I have never known of summer trends to be as literal as this season with flowers, fruit and bold prints. The daisy is an update from big floral and rose prints, which are always pretty but not as trendy as daisies. Choose from subtle accessories such as cell phone covers and bags to dresses and playsuits. Here are some pretty options to get you involved this summer.

            

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Mermaid Hair

I have always had this obsession with mermaids.-the shell bra's, the long tails, the multi-coloured hair. Lucky for you girls out there who are just as obsessed as I am, the mermaid hair trend is gaining momentum this summer. Whether you are blonde or brunette, choose what shade you would like to go and how much you actually want to colour (whether its the entire head or just the tips). There are a variation of options for getting that mermaid hair look, including chalks and semi-permanent dyes. Coordinate it with your clothing to create an extra chic look. Another fun and feminine summer trend!

Go purple like Nicole Richie

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What every girl thinks at the gym

Lets talk about the gym. The air-conditioned building full of complicated equipment, dampened t-shirts, water bottles and colourful mini towels. Everyone is there for one reason and one reason only, for their bodies to look better than they already do. Since summer is fast approaching us South Africans, I thought it only fitting to delve into what goes through the mind of an average female whilst at the gym. Its a non-stop analysis of everything and everyone around us, and this is barely scratching the surface.

Why being in a relationship is awesome

I was recently unfortunate enough to have been included in a conversation between a few select males about being unfaithful in their relationships due to boredom. They informed me that cheating is something that most men and women do at some point in a relationship, or at least think about doing, and that I am ignorant if I think otherwise.

Watermelons & Pineapples

If you didn't realise that watermelon and pineapple prints are the hottest trend for summer 2014, where have you been?  Nothing screams 'Its Summer Time!' more than juicy summer fruit, so why not eat it and wear it too! The watermelon and pineapple trend on pretty much everything from sunglasses to t-shirts is happening at the moment. It is fresh and fun, and even one item can completely update and revamp your outfit. I have been stopping myself from buying every random thing that has any fruit resemblance on it. Check out these fun options!

Fruity bikini's

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About Me

Hi I am Sarah-Jane, but you can call me Sarah. I am currently living and teaching English in Bangkok, Thailand. I've always loved writing, food, travelling and fashion, and figured this is the perfect way for all my passions to collide.

I am a dreamer who has big ideas and high hopes for my future. I am on a constant journey of learning more about myself and finding out what I want to spend the rest of my days doing. I love to express my own opinions and talk to strangers, and I believe that kindness given is kindness shared.

I feel that blogging and writing is an important way of connecting to others in this great big world we live in. This is the inner workings of my mind on a computer screen for all to see. Please feel free to drop me a message, ask a question or just have a look.

I am 23, I am a Leo, I am in love and I am happy.

Welcome to my world x


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Superga Love

I have a mild shoe obsession, and when I go shopping I always seem to focus on shoes even when I'm supposed to be looking for something practical. Its the story of my life! What is awesome about Supergas, however, is that they are fashionable AND practical, and therefore I felt that I could not leave the mall without them. My mom even asked me the other day where she could get some from cause she loves the pairs I have. Superga now has so many different shades, textures and styles, and it was not easy for me to narrow it down to one new pair but I finally chose the black ''flatforms'. I am in love! They are so comfortable and well-made, and the extra height doesn't hurt for someone who is vertically challenged like me. Here are some of the new designs.

Bold metallic style

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So Yesterday Volume 1

These trends have had their moment in the sun, but it is now sadly time to say goodbye! I am one of those people that usually avoids being a slave to fashion, but I would be lying if I said I wasn't sad to see some of these go. I am sometimes guilty of stretching out a trend for a bit longer than I should because it suits my personal style or its flattering, but even I know when to let go. They are OUT!

The high-low 'mullet' dress

These dresses and skirts were lots of fun and we got to show off our legs but keep it formal at the same time. I even had my mom make me a mullet party dress before they reached the stores (thank you Pinterest). Personally, I am sick of seeing this trend simply because it was too popular and overdone. Good-bye mullet dress, the party is over.

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Birkenstocks

Yes, I am just as surprised as you are! Straight out of Germany, Birkenstocks are in fashion and available everywhere. Most people have taken on the trend with hesitation, but why not join in on the fun and look chic at the same time! I would suggest buying a cheaper pair because they are just as good as the originals. Enjoy these comfortable slip-ons and have fun with the different colours! Whatever you do...  just don't wear them with socks.

Pastel Birkenstocks

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8 Signs you should quit your job

"The supreme accomplishment is to blur the lines between work and play"- Arnold J Toynbee

Like I have mentioned before, I could be considered a professional part-time career specialist (completely made-up term) from all the jobs I have had. From being a bartender to an aupair to a personal assistant and promo girl, I have met a lot of people and learnt a lot of things-useful or not.

The gift of higher education

When I finished my final year of high school back in 2009, I had no doubt in my mind that I was going to further my education and study a degree of my choice. My parents had never questioned this notion either, and urged me to continue studying after school.

Chivalry is NOT dead

I constantly hear complaints from women about chivalry being a thing of the past, and men not treating women the way they used to. What I would like to point out is that women are in fact allowing this to happen without even realising. Our expectations are lowering by the day...

Take my car, test my strength

On Valentines Day, February the 14th 2012, I was hijacked. I thought long and hard before writing this blog post because it was a very painful experience for me. Only a few friends and family up until this point know what happened that night, but I thought this would be an opportunity to advise others, especially young girls such as myself, in a positive and helpful way.

Why girls take so long to get ready

I am pretty sure that the average guy has had his time waiting for a girl to get ready, whether it's a mother, sister or girlfriend. Yes I hear you, its irritating and frustrating and sometimes results in an argument or being late. Why, you ask, do girls take so long to get ready? Well let me break it down for you in the simplest and most polite way.

The real pet obsession

So this last sunny Sunday was rather relaxed, as are all the other Sundays in my home. We had guests over who are friends of my parents and whom I hardly know and have little in common with, but I digress. As we were sitting casually outside, all with our chosen drinks in hand, my mind started to wander off with boredom. These people had been talking about their pets for over an hour, I'm not joking.

My first corporate event

I was asked to organise a Wellness Day event for the printing company I'm working for, which took place a few days ago after weeks of planning. Hence being too busy to write this blog post until now! Because the staff work in a heavily mechanised environment, events like these are considerably important to each individual working in the company.


The service providers I invited to the event were the Fort Napier team (blood pressure, aids test, mental health), Virgin Active (fitness tests), Capitec Bank (financial planning), the Eye Wellness Group and a private dietitian. We provided healthy goodie bags for each attendee and lucky draw prizes such as gym towels, caps, water bottles and pedometers to name a few. There were still questions from the guys as to where the braai meat, biltong and beer was, but it was 'Wellness Day' hello!

Teen Adult

There is something comical about leaving the nest and then inevitably returning to the nest. Just when you think you have become this mature adult who calls all the shots and buys her own clothes, you are soon reminded that you are far from Miss Independent.

How to avoid people

Whether you would like to admit it or not, you have all had a guilty moment where you really don't want to acknowledge someones existence in public. It could be that annoying family friend that doesn't stop talking when you see them, the ex or the random stranger you hooked up with one time, or simply someone you don't enjoy too much. Don't be ashamed though, I'm here to assist.

Hilton Arts Fest- Colombo Coffee

Amongst all the food and drink stalls at the Hilton Arts Fest this year, Colombo Coffee was by far the most enticing to me. Since I spent the entire weekend there working at the beer tent, there was a great need for a caffeine boost every now and then. No need to guess where I went for my fix each time!

Hilton Arts Fest- Grolsch

Over the weekend I worked with the SAB brand Grolsch, which were the main contributors of the Hilton Arts Fest beer tent just outside the main Hilton College Theatre. The weekend event was attended by clusters of Hilton College parents, school-going teens and PMB residents all keen to get out of the house and experience some culture.

The premium lager has been made since 1615, with a signature swing top that sets this beer apart from the rest. The excitement for the day was giving out giant 1.5 litre Grolsch magnums to customers who took part in the raffle. It is enough to make any grown man feel like its Christmas and his birthday all in one!

Be present

So often I found myself being distracted. I would be talking to someone and look down at my phone when a notification popped up, or gaze behind a shoulder at the television programme that caught my eye. The worst part is that I caught others doing it and would feel offended.

The 7 types of friends every girl needs

As we get older we realise more and more that when it comes to friends, quality beats quantity every time. It is, however, quite challenging when you transition from a student to a working woman and instead of seeing your friends by default (at varsity or at social gatherings) you have to make a conscious effort to designate time for them.

Durban Day

As someone who lived in the city long enough, I somehow never went to Durban Day until this year, and my oh my have I missed out over the years. It was epic.

Happy times

When my family moved cities, my parents had interviews to find a domestic to assist with the cleaning, washing and general household chores. My parents both had full time jobs and couldn't manage on their own with two young children. When they met Happy amongst other possible candidates, they just knew that she would be the right person for our family.

Small town syndrome

When most people think of South Africa they think of the warm beaches in Durban, the busy urban life in Johannesburg and the rolling winelands of Cape Town. They are all a beautiful representation of our country, and full of rich culture in their own unique way.

Our love story

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend Travis for nearly a year. I am not one of those girls who floods news feeds about us on social media or irritates everyone with stories of how much I love him- it's not my style. I try to avoid this because I firmly feel that a relationship is between two people, not everyone you know.

Living in a dream land

I love talking about dreams! It's this unexplainable and evanescent adventure that happens to us at night when we go to bed, and reach that stage of involuntary REM. I dream constantly about a variation of themes, and they are usually very vivid. At this moment I think of Blair Waldorf from Gossip Girl who said she only dreams in black and white.

The bartender, the shrink

I have had so many different jobs since I've left high school. I don't like to think of myself as a job-jumper, but being a student means making money through various part-time opportunities. This even included handing out flyers at intersections and working as an assistant at a soya bean conference(don't ask). The one job I never thought I would have was being a bartender.

The perfect birthday dinner

It's my birthday tomorrow so I thought I would share my planning and preparation, along with TONS of help from Pinterest. I really wanted to have a relaxed dinner party with a few friends and family just to celebrate my special day.

All of these ideas are so easy to do and only require a small budget. I like to keep things simple, because I find that as soon as you try too hard to impress everyone or spend too much money it doesn't usually have the desired effect. It's never easy to cater for a group of people so I thought I would have a variety of snack foods to keep everyone going. I have also included a few ideas for atmosphere and decor.

The details
It's always nice to add small touches to the evening to make it seem more put together, whether its adding tags of peoples names or having a nice arrangement in the middle of the table. I saw an idea where each placemate is a piece of black paper and you simply write each guests name in chalk on the black paper. I love monochrome, it always looks more sophisticated than it is. Another idea is to present knives and forks in a serviette tied into the shape of a bow tie. This is perfect for a barbeque or help yourself type event.

My Bucket List

“What would you do if you weren’t afraid?”- Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook

I have decided to share my personal bucket list after years of adding on and scratching off, altering and rewriting, losing and forgetting. The poor list has been through a lot as I've got older and my dreams and goals have changed along with me.

If you are reading this, write your own meaningful bucket list and keep it with you as a constant reminder of how full and exciting your life can be. What's the use of writing the bucket list if not to actually cross everything off at one point?

What are you on this earth to do? That is the biggest question you can ask yourself. Everything in life is a pattern to your purpose. The mistakes we experience, the decisions we make, the way we choose to spend our time each day, prepares us for what we are able to achieve. Therefore the more we experience, the more we challenge ourselves, the closer we get to finding that purpose.

It is so easy to fall into the trap of work, responsibilities and routine, but whenever you can, put your mind towards a future goal even if that means working on it bit by bit. With this life we are given, we must find our purpose and fulfill what it is we think we are here to do. It really isn't that complicated, and things always have a way of working out when you are determined. I would like to think of this list as 30 things to do before I'm 30!

1. Teach a foreign student to speak English
2. Stand under a waterfall
3. Run a half marathon
4. Climb a mountain
5. Swim with the pigs in Bahamas
6. Learn how to surf
7. Sleep for a night under the stars
8. Learn to play guitar (at least 1 song)
9. Go scuba diving
10. Float in the Dead Sea
11. See a volcano
12. Take ballroom dancing lessons
13. Swim in the hot pools in Iceland
14. See Angkor Wat at sunset
15. Watch a broadway show
16.Walk along the Great Wall of China
17. Write a book
18. See the Hagia Sofia in Turkey
19. Participate in a parade or carnival
20. Go paddle boarding
21. Attend a fashion show
22. Eat something I have grown myself
23. See Times Square
24. Go snowboarding
25. See the Okavango Delta in Botswana
26. Go on a cruise
27. Stay on an island
28. Go cliff diving
29. Drink sangria in Barcelona
30. Do the Moses Mabhida swing (tallest swing in the world)

Every time I cross off one of the above I'll write about it. x

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The grateful book

“It’s a troublesome world. All the people who are in it are troubled with troubles almost every minute. You ought to be thankful, a whole heaping lot, for the places and people you’re lucky you’re not”- Dr. Seuss, author

I want to share the experience I had whilst reading the book The Secret-The Magic by Rhonda Byrne. My mom had told me to read it after she found it at her book club, and I just put it in the growing pile of books on my bedside table.

Pay it forward

Everyday, everywhere we go, we are surrounded by people we don’t know. It is so easy for us to go about life only talking to people we know in our specific social circle, because there is no challenge when you already know someone. It's our comfort zone. Other than that, we talk to strangers only when necessary, whether its the waitress at a coffee shop or a teller at the bank.

Negative news

I have never really been a newspaper reading type person, much like the rest of my generation, and if there was important breaking news I watched it on tv. The idea of opening up A2 sized pages, trying to manage it my hands whilst simultaneously reading is not exactly thrilling. A few months ago I started working for a media and printing company that prints and distributes the majority of the newspapers for our city.

The human connection

When you meet someone who is completely intent on listening to what you have to say and truly getting to know you, that’s when you make a human connection. Its instant, it’s overwhelming and it’s powerful. This happens very rarely, but when it does, that person can often change the course of your life.

Running my heart out

I always enjoyed sport, but the one thing I never took to, however, was running. I had a mental block against it, and I tried to avoid it at all costs (including faking injuries I will admit). More recently, for a somewhat brief period of 3 months last year, my gym contract had ended because I moved cities.

Being the right girl

Women constantly complain about not being able to meet the right guy. Have you ever considered that you're not the right girl? Its harsh I know, but in many situations we have to consider this as the solution to the problem by looking at ourselves first.

9 Wise Lessons my Grandmothers taught me

I personally think that advice from grandparents isn't used enough by the younger generation. These are people who have lived much longer than you, and are therefore much wiser than you. They know a lot about a lot of things, don't be fooled by their politeness and prudence.

Confessions of an aupair

I was an aupair to two lovely children (lets call them George and Lucy) for a year while I was a student living in Durban. Aupairing in South Africa is convenient for young women such as myself who need part time jobs that fit in with going to lectures and writing exams. I am in no way complaining about the fact that aupairing exists as a job, but I am confused as to why they are necessary. This is my story.

7 reasons why women are bitches

I bet the majority of females reading this got a bit wound up by the title. Yes I said it! I'm included in this explanation so I have only myself to offend. Women are bitches, and if you think your'e not, you need to accept that you are, and that's ok. Yes, guys can be assholes, but this isnt the focus right now.

Money don't come easy for a reason

Am I the only one who thinks about money all the time? How to earn it, how to save it (and my personal favourite) how to spend it! Our lives are ruled by what we can and can't have, whether we realise it or not.

My shopping problem

Hi my name is Sarah and I'm a shopaholic.

What started off as an acceptable interest in shopping has slowly become what feels like a full blown addiction. I need to be stopped!  I'm obviously past the denial stage in this situation and onto the 'how do I cure this' stage. I know every girl loves beautiful things, but where do we draw the line? When is enough really enough?

Gluten free life

My mom used to get violent stomach aches and migraines for years. She tried everything to cure them (including surgery) until one day a doctor realised she had celiac disease (gluten intolerance). She didn't realise that she had learnt to deal with the pain over the years, while the disease attacked her organs.