The importance of having less

In light of the festive season, I have thought a lot about the materialistic side of Christmas and how my values of such have changed drastically since last year. I make a decent salary in Bangkok, and I go from month to month with no real worries about money. I am able to save, go out on the weekends and plan awesome holidays. Even though I stick to some sort of budget, its never really a stressful experience in terms of day to day expenses. Just recently I was thinking about how much my spending has changed when comparing 24 year old me living abroad to 22 year old me back home, that was always working (sometimes 3 jobs) but for some reason always running out of money. I figured it out... and this epiphany is something that has actually changed me in the best possible way. I don't waste my money on 'stuff' anymore.

5 Baht butterfly crumpets anyone?

Tassled bags

I am crazy about hassle bags making a comeback! It gives me the opportunity to get involved with the boho chic summer style without going too retro. I have seen them everywhere from high end stores to forever 21 and they are sticking for the next season! Bring on the 70's style tassels on everything from suede jackets to stilettos. Here are some awesome tassel bags for you to get boho.

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WXYZ Bar @ Aloft Lounge

I have had the pleasure of spending a couple of evenings at WXYZ bar @ Aloft Lounge since I moved to Bangkok, most of the time being for a friends birthday event. Situated on the well-known expat road of Sukhumvit Soi 11, it is the perfect spot to have a good night out with friends after a long week. I think this has a lot to do with the drinks special that takes place every Friday and Saturday night which seems almost too good to be true: Unlimited cocktails, beers and shots from 9pm to 12am for the bargain price of 600 Baht per person.

The entrance to WXYZ bar

Thai street food favorites

When you visit Thailand, or live here like I do, you will certainly find yourself eating most kinds of Thai street food available on every corner (literally anywhere you go). After my various experiences with street food in Bangkok, I thought I would share with you my favorites, as well as some tips to remember. Don't be nervous about ordering street food and only eat western style food when you are in Thailand, it would be such an opportunity missed.

There are also many fancy Thai restaurants that offer a selection of authentic foods, but I find that you are then paying double the price for a meal that could be cooked more authentically right on the streets like the locals have it. The language barrier makes ordering food a slight challenge but just pointing to things and hoping for the best often works! Here are the Thai names and descriptions to help you out a bit. Street food is the best!

Papaya Salad (somtam thai)

Papaya salad is possibly my favorite of all the street foods! It is crispy and fresh, with the main ingredients of unripened papaya, carrots, sprouts and peanuts. Added to the mix is flavors such as garlic, palm sugar and fresh chilli (be sure to ask for 'mai pet' if you're not into too much spice). It is great for a lunch time meal with sticky marinated chicken (gai yang) added to it. You will be able to spot a somtam stand by the big piles of shredded papaya in the glass window. Make sure to specifically ask for somtam 'Thai' if you're not a fan of tiny dehydrated baby shrimp being thrown into the mix (they're kind of off-putting).

Beaching it in Ao Nang, Krabi

When deciding where to go for our upcoming long weekend, we thought to go somewhere beautiful yet slightly untamed. After countless stories and photo's of Phuket, Phuket, Phuket from fellow travelers and friends, I felt as if I had already been there. This is not to say I'll never go to Phuket but since living and teaching in Bangkok, its always a hunt for the non-touristy destinations and unusual experiences.

Postcard moment on Tub Island

A day in the life of an English teacher: BKK

I honestly have the most rewarding job as an English kindergarten teacher, and I live in the huge unpredictable city of Bangkok, Thailand. I thought I would share my typical week day in this wonderful place I call home (for now).

Its such a great feeling to wake up in the morning and not have to drag myself out of bed after hitting the snooze alarm 3 times. I splash some cold water on my face, put on my uniform of black pants and a polo shirt (a different colour for every day of the week) and do my hair and make up. In Thailand the way you present yourself is very important in terms of how others see you. Its more about the fact that you look after yourself than pure vanity, so I put a little more effort into my appearance. In the same way, the Thai teachers that I work with are some of the kindest and most genuine people I have ever met, and we are constantly laughing and joking around with each other.

Teacher A and I taking a selfie

Two foreigners walk into a barber in Bangkok

The title may sound like the beginning of a bad joke (and this post could very well be) but I just had to share our experience whilst trying to find a barber to cut Trav's hair and trim his beard in Bangkok (Trav had not had his hair cut since we left South Africa). Needless to say it was no easy feat to find a barber in a city where very few Thai men have beards, and very few barbers speak English.

Sports Luxe

The sports wear as everyday wear trend has been surfacing quite a lot this year, and I have admittedly been fighting it. After all, is sports and work out gear not meant to be seen exclusively when you are at the gym or being active? Well my mindset has finally changed, and do you know who changed it? None other than Kylie Jenner. I have always had mixed emotions about the Kardashian clan and their materialistic ways, but there is no denying that one thing King Kylie knows is fashion. Her sports luxe looks as of late are urging me to bring out the spandex!

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The Radisson Blu: 27 Bites buffet

The beauty of living in a diverse city like Bangkok is that you can go from sitting on a plastic chair eating a noodle bowl at a local market to dining at a 5 star restaurant. As much as I love Thai street food, every now and then you just need a treat. Since it was mine and Trav's anniversary on the weekend, we decided to book a Sunday all-you-can-eat lunch at the hotel restaurant 27 Bites at The Radisson Blu. It.was.unbelievable.

Getting around Bangkok: Public transport at it's best

Of all the places in the world Bangkok must surely be the most convenient in terms of mass public transport. I sold my car back home in South Africa, and in exchange I have used possibly every means of transport that exists whilst living in Thailand. If you want to go anywhere, at any given moment in time, for whatever fee you are willing to pay, it is most certainly possible here. From cheapest to most expensive, here are the public transport options available to you in 'The Big Mango'.

Hobbyist Cafe

In a city where you are spoilt for choice when it comes to dining out, every so often I come across a hidden gem that makes me want to keep going back. A friend took me for coffee today at the Hobbyist Cafe, which is on her side of the BKK hood in Saphan Taksin. The whole area is a tourist hub due to the main pier of the Chao Phraya River being situated there, so it really caters to every need. This cool coffee shop is no exception!

The front entrance

Cabbages and Condoms

When I first heard the name of the restaurant 'Cabbages and Condoms' I thought there had to be some mistake... condom what? You can eat at this place? I know I am not the first person to think how interesting (and inedible) it may sound, but its an even better excuse to check it out yourself!

To give a little background to the restaurant before I talk about the experience, the whole concept is to promote health education and prevent transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies. This is a serious problem in Thailand and the world over, and I think its a fun way to bring light to these important issues. The signs leading up to the entrance of Cabbages and Condoms are downright hilarious. Happy waving condoms show you the way down the street, and may I just say this was entertainment in itself...

The enthusiastic condom shows the way

Island Getaway: Koh Samed

Of all the holidays and trips I have been on in my life, staying on an island for the first time definitely tops the list of experiences for me. The island of Koh Samed, situated in Rayong province in Thailand, is nothing short of paradise. Spending 4 days there was a moment in time for me, and I just can't wait to go back.

One of the quieter beaches on Koh Samed

Blue and white print

The boho chic fashion trend of summer has brought with it beautiful Grecian inspired tops, pants and blouses with crisp white cottons and blue paisley prints. There are also the D&G inspired china/porcelain prints that take the sophistication to a new level, as well as the mediterranean blue leaf craze. I have seen this print everywhere and it is so in right now! Pair a shirt with a high waist denim skirt or find the print as a flowing shirt dress with lace up sandals. A must-get trend for summer.

Image from lookbook.co

The Death of Skinny Jeans

As sad as I am writing this blog post, staring at a pile of my skinny jeans, it must be done for the sake of the fashion world. Skinny jeans are officially dead!

It may seem juvenile to get so upset about parting with a mere style of pants, but the fact is they were a staple item in all of our wardrobes (and still are for those such as myself who haven't quite let go yet). So now we have to part with our slim fit friends and move onto the trendier bootleg, wide cut and boyfriend jean style of the season and possibly the next few years. 

The one thing I am most restless about is how to style this seemingly unflattering trend! That is why I scoured the Internet for inspiration and good old street fashion looks that we can easily pull off without shedding too many tears over leaving our dear skinny jeans in the back of the closet. Here goes!

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When life takes over

I had this idea that once I had moved halfway across the world to Bangkok, I would be immensely inspired by everything around me and therefore have a constant flow of moments and events to discuss in detail on my blog. The truth is that I am inspired by this city in so many overwhelming ways that I seldom find the words to explain the experiences that I am going through. I like to think of it as having all the words and emotions in a bowl of alphabet soup, but not being able to digest them into sentences. Does that make sense at all or does it sound like a super weird bio lesson?

Other than being overwhelmed and speechless at the best of times, I am also busier than I have ever been. I used writing as a mechanism of escaping my somewhat vanilla life back home, and I am now on this whirlwind adventure, along with a teaching job that keeps me occupied anytime in-between. Sometimes I will look at my phone and I haven't even had the time to reply to a simple text message. Sitting quietly with my laptop and my thoughts is a difficult feat when there is so much going on around me.

So here comes the point of this blog post-life takes over sometimes. I place certain interests and hobbies in a list of priorities and often they slip to the bottom of that list when I have too much on my plate. Living in a foreign country is a challenge and an adventure, and after a few months I finally have the urge to find the time to write again! So for all the sweet strangers and friends and family members out there that are reading this (Hi Mom), I have returned from hibernation and I will be writing a whole lot about a whole lot from now on. x

How to avoid low quality clothing

We have all bought that pretty top or those really nice pants whilst shopping, only to find that after a few wears they look cheap and nasty. These such items almost always end up in the back of the closet or out with the trash. Isn't it so frustrating when you get those horrible little balls of fabric on your clothes that make you look so tacky? Or when your favourite jersey starts gathering holes?

Along with the advantage of having a fashion designer as a mom (shout out!), I have come up with my own ways of checking whether an item is low quality. As I get older I have more appreciation for quality instead of quantity, and as young adult I find it is more beneficial to invest in a few expensive items instead of tons of seasonal trends. Nothing is fool proof though, sometimes us females get too distracted by the pretty details to inspect the important stuff. Can you blame us?

Expat life in BKK

What is it really like for an expat living in Bangkok? Well let me just say it is not easy to begin with, but it is a lifestyle I wouldn't be able to afford back in South Africa that is for sure. When I decided to  move to a foreign country I had to realise that I was not just here to visit for a few days, I needed to find an apartment and settle in. This whole process of making bkk my home was unexpectedly easy in some ways and equally frustrating in others. What I did have to accept straight off the bat was that my life back in South Africa could in no way be replicated in great big Bangkok (as much as I tried).

So Yesterday Volume 5

It's that time again...where I rudely share with you all what to stop wearing as of right now. Of course it is completely your decision to subject yourself to the criticism that is this blog post, but I just have to get it off my chest. How can I keep this precious information to myself? The answer is I simply can't. Just like yesterdays newspaper, the following trends are no longer relevant. Take note!

Girls wearing guys underwear

I am very aware that Beyonce wore underwear in her latest music video 7/11, and everything she does is awesome... but some things we should just leave to her you know? There is a reason they are called 'mens briefs', because they are in fact for MEN. If you took a selfie in the mirror with a pair of of Calvin's sticking out of your jeans, shame on you. No more of this please.

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The Park Terrace

When I first arrived in Bangkok, the hotel my boyfriend and I stayed at was very conveniently situated on a road full of nightlife, markets and massage parlours (some PG13 and some not so much). Each night would be this fun adventure as to where we should go for dinner and drinks, and in the week that we stayed there we found ourselves going back to the same place on the main road- The Park Terrace.

Summer Dress Picks

Sorry to all you lovely South Africans back home enjoying the cold winter (I could actually use a few cold days myself) but it is summer in Thailand for most of the year and I can't help but admire the beautiful dresses that are in fashion at the moment. For me there are not many items of clothing more feminine and fun to wear than a summer dress! Here are my four top picks for the season, and they kind of make you want to dance around and pick flowers in the garden... or whatever.

Pop-over dress

This pop-over dress has two layers which brings a fresh new way of vamping up an otherwise ordinary silhouette. It also covers up problem areas and gives the sense of chic structure. Choose from a high neck cut to a flattering v-line cut with thin straps. I personally prefer a patterned option when it comes to this style, but with a simple white version you can never go wrong!

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Lumphini Park

Lumphini Park was one of the must-see places in Bangkok that I heard a lot about before arriving, and I was quite excited to spend the day there and see what it was like for myself. Other than choosing one of the hottest days I have experienced in BKK so far (sweat is a given when you live here), it really was all I hoped it would be. I have never been to New York but Lumphini Park seems like a smaller version, with that crazy contrast between the city skyscrapers and the rare greenness of the park.

Chatuchak- the market of all markets

I love a good market, ask anyone who knows me. Was I prepared for Chatuchak market when we arrived? The answer is no... no I was not. Let me tell you the basic stats first before I go into detail. The Chatuchak Weekend Market (or Jatujak as known by the locals) is arguably the biggest market in the world, with approximately 15000 stalls and shops covering over 27 acres of land. Yes I know, its unbelievable. Don't go with an empty purse!!

Karate Belt it up

Obi belts are no longer just for karate lessons, they are the biggest accessory trend of the season. Not only do these belts accentuate your waist, they are stylish and fun to wear. Tie it in a simple knot at the front or wrap around your waist twice to create that obi belt look. You can pair this belt over a summer dress, with a top and wide leg pants, or any other loose fitting garment that could do with a bit of structure. Whether you choose a white belt or a black belt (get it) or any colour in-between, this is the trend to look out for this summer!

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Bangkok Lessons

Hello Everyone! I apologise for being absent for just over two weeks (it feels like months), but a lot has happened in such a short space of time that having time for blogging my thoughts just hasn't been an option until now.

As I have mentioned before, Travis and I have moved to Bangkok in Thailand to teach English. I have decided that because my life has changed so drastically since living in a foreign country, so should my blog. I am still going to keep consistent with the different topics I like to discuss, but there will obviously be a whole lot of Thailand experiences coming your way. I have only been living in Bangkok for a short while and it feels like I have so much so say, but I also won't be one of those people that breaks down every moment and emotion of the day, I promise!

In the time I have been here my brain has been overloaded with information to the point where I feel physically exhausted. It's amazing how completely different one culture and environment can be from another. These are some of the important lessons Bangkok has taught me in just a few weeks-some more forcefully than others let me tell you...

Airport Attire

Airport attire is more than just planning a cute outfit, it has to be comfortable, well thought-out and sensible. These words might sound slightly boring when talking about clothing, but allow me to prove that you don't have to look like a dogs breakfast to have a great airport outfit. This is especially necessary when you are on a long flight, because your sense of humour will soon fade if you haven't chosen the right kit (trust me).

The 90's Denim Skirt

Yay! I have been awaiting the revival of the denim skirt, especially since everything else made of denim has become so popular. I am done with dungarees, give me skirts! Not the mini skirts from 10 years ago, but rather the high-waisted button up variation that our mothers wore in the 90's. They are flattering and so cute, and go with pretty much anything (my favourite kind of trend). I urge you to all go grab one of these skirts, and pair it with a laid back t-shirt and sandals for summer, or stockings and a jacket for winter. 

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7 Things I hate about long flights

I doubt there is anyone in the world that enjoys being cramped up in an airplane on a long haul flight for 10 hours (or more). Since I have a super loooong flight from Johannesburg to Bangkok in less than 2 weeks, I thought I would share my deep loathing of such. Lets just leave the 'I should feel fortunate to be able to fly to another country, and I am very lucky' argument. I am aware of this but it sucks okay! It has to be done.

Just one night in Monaco

I spent one single night as part of the elite, rich and famous people that make up but a tiny population of the world. By the looks of it, most of them live in Monaco. Before arriving in Monaco, along the French Riviera, we were told that the mystery place we were going to that evening had a dress code that was so strict that you would not gain entry to the building if you did not meet the requirements. This was equally exciting and daunting, but we followed suite.

Kim and I in front of the marina

The Chelsea Boot

Not only is this style of boots named after one of my best friends, it is the most stylish winter shoe for the upcoming cold season. I know South African seasons are pretty much opposite to most of the world, but that doesn't mean to say you can't pair these boots with a cute pair of shorts or a summer dress if you live elsewhere. 

The Chelsea boot is known for its small block heel and pull tab at the back, and it was notably designed by Queen Victoria's shoemaker-how much more convincing do you need? I have already seen them advertised on mrp.com, which means there are affordable options too! Get them in black, tan or dark maroon for that edgy winter look, and pair them with tights or skinny jeans tucked in/ folded above. Alexa Chung wears them, so should you.

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Bangkok: The Countdown

There are less than 3 weeks left before I depart for Bangkok, Thailand to start teaching English, and I can't explain to you how much is going on in my head right now. It has got to the point where all other forms of inspiration and creativity have evaporated from my brain (including my sense of humour if I'm honest). I am a nightmare to be around lately, and I apologise in advance to family, friends and strangers (the man at the post office on Tuesday) that have been caught in the thunderstorm mood-swing that is Sarah. I feel the necessity to share what is going on in this head of mine in the hopes that it won't explode. It's not pretty...

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Mom Jeans

Can you actually believe how retro fashion trends can be sometimes? Not even two decades have passed before the 80s/90s inspired 'Mom Jeans' style has come back. I have not been completely won over just yet, but I can't ignore these comeback jeans anymore. They are high-waisted, they are baggy, and they can easily make you look like a mom if not styled correctly (consider this a warning). I can't help but laugh and think of that Saturday Night Live sketch about 'Mom Jeans'. 

Either you can embrace the trend, or ignore it and stick with your skinny jeans. The choice is up to you! As always, keep it simple and pair these jeans with a good belt and a simple white or striped top that can be tucked in to the front. This style works well with heels as it elongates your legs, but if you want to stick to flats go for sneakers and roll up the bottoms.

Confessions of a 'Yes' Girl

I have this terrible affliction, and anyone who knows me would have at one point been on the receiving end. I like to say yes to everything. Let me stop you before you think 'oh good for her, she is adventurous and spontaneous'... um NO. I like to think that I am this carefree and nonchalant individual who seizes every opportunity, but I seldom follow through and it's such a problem in my life. Tell me I'm not the only one!

Italian dreaming: Venice by Gondola

When I arrived in Venezia I never felt more like a tourist in my life. I could have wandered the streets of this beautiful old city with no real plan at all. Everything you see is something new at every turn, and you really feel as if you have gone back in time. I walked and walked until I thought my shoes could give way, admiring the famously elaborate masks and glass goods on display, taking in the smells of fresh produce at the Rialto Bridge Market, and admiring the effortlessly stylish Venetian people. I did a class project on Venice in grade 6, and never would I have thought I would make this project my reality a decade later.

Rialto Bridge

6 Things I wish actually existed

The 6 things I wish actually existed on earth...this is what I daydream about when I am staring blankly into the distance. I have an outrageous imagination as you can see, but I am pretty sure most of you can agree with my non-existent inventions. In a perfect world all of the following would exist.

1. A Reggies Rush 'Zara Edition'

There is nothing I would love more than to relive my childhood dream inside the walls of Zara, the epitome of a girls fantasy wardrobe in one single shop. The fact that the store changes every 2 weeks makes me genuinely sad sometimes. Like where do all those clothes go? Give them to me! I would have a whole strategy as to how I would navigate the shop to grab as many items in my size that I possibly could in the short amount of time that I am given. I forget whether it was a even a minute, but that is enough for me. My black belt in shopping would aid me well I think!

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9 Things Real Housewives has taught me

The women from the reality show 'Real Housewives' have really opened my mind up to what its like to have so much money that you develop an alter ego. This elite group of females may seem aggressive and intimidating, but you have to admit they can teach us normal middle-class folk a thing or two about life.

Its all about reading between the lines and finding the poems among the swear words, and the wisdom among the insults. Ladies get out your notebook and pen because here is what the Real Housewives can teach you about being feisty, rich and fabulous.

1. Sharing is caring

Neutrals from head to toe

There has been a huge transition from colour blocking and bright accessories to entirely neutral outfits consisting of greys, beige tones, light pink, black and white. The trick is to combine these neutrals in a way that you don't look boring or washed out, which can so easily happen without a pop of colour. Neutrals always look classy and expensive, and if you don't believe me then have a look at Sandra Bullock's wardrobe from The Blind Side (I have NEVER been so inspired by a wardrobe from a movie).

My favourite colour of the moment is that light dusty pink, which is surprising since I have never really been drawn to this colour before. Either pair a pink top with a pair of white pants or shorts, and beige heels or a monochrome grey and black combo with gold or silver jewellery and you can't go wrong. Any kind of animal print (leopard, snakeskin) works well too, and could be included as a neutral since all the colours are subtle basic tones. Along with Sandy B, let me share with you a few of my favourite neutral inspired outfits.

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7 Signs you are no longer that young

I am 23 years old, that's young right? Obviously to any one older than me it is considered young, but I have had a few situations with various teenagers that has proven otherwise. I can remember my teenage years like they were yesterday, but again and again I am reminded of how much I have changed and 'aged' since then. I know how ridiculous it sounds, but I genuinely had a moment of acceptance that I am no longer as cool, young and carefree as I was when I was 16 (or 18). Here is how I came to this conclusion.

So Yesterday Volume 4

Here is another instalment of 'So Yesterday', just to remind ya'll about what is no longer in fashion (at least as far as I'm concerned). We have all been victims of the fashion industry at some point or another, so I am here to maybe assist those that have trouble letting go of old trends, or simply refuse to. Fashion evolves over time and so should we! It is easy when you know your personal style basics and add fashionable pieces to it as you go along, instead of being trend obsessed and looking like you try too hard from head to toe- don't be that girl.

Upside down Crosses

The only place you should be wearing a cross is around your neck as far as I am concerned. Apart from upside down crosses on a crop top being equally blasphemous and offensive, they are not even cool anymore so please I beg of you to stop wearing them. This includes scarves, pants and anywhere else you want to spread your non-Christian ideals. That's all!

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Italian dreaming: Let's stay in Roma

Before my trip to Europe, I have to admit I was more interested in seeing Rome than any other city. I was a biased tourist on all counts and I didn't care. Call me a dreamer, but all I could think of was sitting at a Roman restaurant eating pasta and sipping on red wine whilst street musicians stood on the cobbled street playing Italian music with a saxophone in the background. The funny thing is that one night this all actually happened.

Italian performers outside a restaurant in central Rome

An evening at Madame Zingara

My mom went to Madame Zingara with a group of her friends a while back, and I can remember how insanely envious I was watching her dress up, feather boa and all, to watch a performance that can only be described as a South African Cirque du soleil.

So naturally, when I was offered a ticket to attend this years production of Madame Zingara at Suncoast Casino in Durban, I had to stop myself from screaming it from the rooftops and doing a cartwheel in true Zingara style. FINALLY I would get to experience this weird and wonderful show!

Dress: Urban Shoes: Zoom Belt: Country Road Necklace: Woolworths

My 100th blog post!

Aaaaaah hello blog post number 100 on She Thinks Like Me you beauty! This is a personal milestone for me, as I have been in the blog game for a year but I have been writing short stories, poems and 'articles' since way back. Yes, I was the nerd in English class that read every single assigned book (and more), and always had my hand up in class. I fell in love with words and how they could be put together to form meaning, to captivate and to inspire.

I have always been particularly obsessed with magazine articles and how they are set out. Simple, to the point and easy to understand. I would always think 'I want to write for a magazine and have people relate to what I am saying', but it just seemed like a pipe dream at the time. I didn't know what to do with my pieces of writing because the blogging world was foreign to me, so I would just keep them as documents saved on my computer.

When I look back I could kick myself that I hadn't started sooner, because the satisfaction that blogging gives me is something I can't really explain (but lets not get into that for fear of boring you all to death). It is like this community of people who get to share certain parts of their lives, empower others to keep writing, capture life in beautiful photo's and use social media as a tool to be heard. That is barely scratching the surface.

To all you bloggers out there, I respect you for what you do, whether you have 5 views a day or 5000. Remind yourself why you are writing and stay true to who you are. Blogs may highlight only the fun and beautiful parts of our lives but everyone has their bad days and hardships. All I can say is be original, keep it simple. x

4 Things I Learnt in the Bush

Something I really appreciate about my relationship with my boyfriend Trav is that we are so different in the way we see the world, but we get to learn and appreciate these differences together. When it comes to holidays for example, I am all for any place with the sun and the sea, and he prefers camping and the bush. When I go to a restaurant I always order the same kinds of food, and he will order the strangest meal no one has ever tried. I am impulsive when it comes to making a decision and he thinks it through first. These are some of the factors that allow each other to expand our minds and our perspectives, especially when it comes to holidays and traveling.

Our recent holiday to the private game reserve Kube Yini in Mkuze, Zululand proves no different. We had been in hot and tropical Mozambique over the Christmas holidays, and now it was Trav's turn to do what he loves best: be in the bush. Here is what I learnt...

Trav and I at the lookout point

Block Heels

Okay so Im going to be honest here, I was not a huge fan of block heels to begin with. I have always loved the feminine stiletto, and a block heel just seemed to give that unappealing sense that you are about to do some long distance walking to work. However, seeing these shoes literally EVERYWHERE kind of made me love them after a while. Fashion does this to people-it's brainwashing!

Block heels of all kinds are a huge fashion trend for both summer and winter. They add instant sophistication to any outfit, whether it is casual or evening wear. I love shoes like this that are versatile and can be worn with anything, because you really do get your moneys worth in terms of usage. They are also really really comfortable, and the thick heel prevents getting stuck in the grass or getting that heel wobble (been there). My personal favourite is wearing them with a pair of ripped boyfriend jeans and a white shirt, which is just my favourite go-to look at the moment.

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Choker Trend

As a true 90's girl, I can see how the decade of casual and grunge is coming back in so many ways with mom jeans, black lipstick, denim on denim and crop tops... and now most recently chokers. Remember those necklaces that hugged our throats? With jewels and velvet straps or those plastic lace looking versions? It's all coming back to me now, and I think I like it!

Rihanna has recently started yet another fashion movement of her own, wearing chokers of all kinds. Her effortless way of pulling off unusual trends simply makes us want to copy her time and time again. Other choker trend-setters are Alexa Chung, Miranda Kerr, Kylie Jenner and Iggy Azalea.

Whether it is simple with a gemstone, fully bedazzled or thick and gold, decide which choker style suits you. You can easily layer them with a cool t-shirt for a day time look, or wear one thick band with dark lipstick and a ballgown for an evening look. Don't say I didn't warn you!

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When I'm gone

As some of you may know, I have only 2 months left in South Africa before I leave to teach English in Thailand, and thereafter travel around Asia as I have always wanted. Having this brief time left with my family and friends has really made me think about my priorities, and how they could inevitably change while I am in a foreign and unfamiliar country.

I didn't write out a list of resolutions for the new year as most do, its not really my style. I thought I would instead make a list of priorities to remind myself of whilst I am in Thailand.

Fashion Week Inspiration Spring 2015

Spring Fashion Week 2015 has recently taken place, and even though us South Africans are heading towards the end of summer soon, I have picked out some of the main forecasts that can suit any season. I don't think I have been this excited about the emerging trends since stretch skinny jeans, and I feel like each one can suit my personal style. As I have said a thousand times, I prefer the minimal look and I don't often take crazy risks, but this time around I might go slightly out of my comfort zone and be more adventurous with fashion. Here is my SFW 2015 summary of inspring trends:

The Shirt Dress

The shirt dress is another classic that made its mark on the spring runway. Chloe included the shirt dress with their signature knee length lace up sandals (which are becoming a trend in themselves), and A.F Vandevorst took on a more masculine approach with sharp lines and darker colours. One of the most versatile trends, it can be worn in many variations and suits all body shapes. For street style, pair with a belt at the waist and a pair of ballet pumps.

Image from harpers bazaar.com

8 Ways that you know you are having a good day

There are those bad days where everything goes wrong and you just want to crawl into the foetal position, and then there are those glorious days where the sun shines just a lil brighter, and the birds chirp a lil louder. These are the days that I live for, and they aren't necessarily dramatic or full of excitement. It's all the small things that add up to one big happy day, and you get to revel in the complete bliss that is life. This is how you know you're having a good day.

The Perfect Valentines Date

As some of you may already know, my name is Sarah and I am a hopeless romantic. At the same time, I personally don't think that love and romance requires tons of money spent on me or materialistic gifts. I prefer thought, affection and a mushy well-written card.

I am so over the same old thing each year when it comes to Valentines Day. Giving each other big fluffy teddies and silly gifts emblazoned with hearts that go into the back of closets, and spending ridiculous amounts of money on fancy dinners at that fully-booked restaurant is just not my idea of a good time. Not being able to have a nice conversation and worrying about what to order or if you chose the right outfit can easily make you forget what Valentines Day is actually about.

Italian dreaming: Pisa to Florence

The journey into Italy was painted with luscious greenery, aged tunnels and farms that went for miles. The humidity suddenly became evident as we got out of the bus at a service station. I swallowed warm air along with my first proper piece of Italian pizza there- it was cheesy and delicious and I ordered another. The system of buying anything in Italy is very odd. You first pay for your items, and then you collect them, or you get a ticket for the items and then pay for them... okay I might not be explaining the system too well but all I can say is that it is complicated and very much based on honesty.

Then it was time for the Leaning Tower of Pisa, in Pisa. This architectural mystery was obviously on my list of things to see, so I was embarrrasingly thrilled about the whole experience. What do you do when you come face to face with the famous tower? You pose in a ridiculous manner of course. Whether you are holding the whole thing up with your bare hands or  giving it a lick with your tongue outstretched, you have to seize the opportunity.  

Me holding up the Leaning Tower of Pisa

Going Gingham

A well-known favourite has returned to the fashion world, and that is gingham print. For any of you that are not familiar with gingham, it is the double-check square pattern (think Italian restaurant tablecloth but much classier). This print is easy to style if you keep it simple, whether you pair a gingham shirt with baggy boyfriend jeans or a gingham skirt with a tucked in tank top. The matching trend is still going strong, and if you pair two gingham pieces together you are on point. To start off with, try a navy and white gingham, or the seasonal light pink and white. Loving this trend!

Image from refinery29.com

Create the life you want

Any individual can choose the life that they want by having the right mindset and a positive attitude. 'Lifestyle design' is a concept made famous by Timothy Ferris, who delves into a world where you do not have to sit in front of a computer screen in a white-walled office everyday of your life to be successful. I could not agree more, and since finishing my degree and dipping my toe into the corporate world, I realised that I want anything but that office bound life, and I will do anything to avoid it.

Here is my point. You work 40+ hours, 5 days a week with only 2 weeks leave in a year where you can actually look forward to having a break or going on holiday. Weekends are usually spent running errands, cooking and finishing work you couldn't get done during the week. Before you know it, it's Monday again and you are back at your desk, with the only ambiance being telephones ringing and the smell of cheap coffee. A promotion or a salary boost is nowhere in site, and you feel that your hard work goes unnoticed the majority of the time. All you are really waiting for, and saving up for, and longing for is the moment you can retire at the age of 60 or so and take your life back. Sound familiar? What kind of life is that?

If you are one of those lucky few that actually enjoy their chosen career, take pride in their work and gain fulfilment through their contribution to society...this post is not for you.

The do's and dont's of a wedding guest

Wedding season is fast approaching for all those individuals who are lucky enough to tie the knot with their one true love. I personally have two weddings to attend in the next 2 months and I am so very excited! I mean who doesn't love weddings? Side-note: can I just say that at the age of 23 I am yet to be a bridesmaid, and at this point I will agree to be one at your wedding even if I don't know you. Is that weird?

Anyway, I thought it would be helpful (or at least somewhat entertaining) to discuss the do's and dont's of a wedding guest. Yes, as a guest you are enormously insignificant in the greater scheme of things, and you might even find yourself missing from every single photo that was taken that night, but it is important to understand a few things before attending a wedding. Listen up!

So Yesterday Volume 3

Here is the first 'so yesterday' update of 2015, and since all the January sales are taking over the malls at the moment, I thought it would be the perfect time to say what is out and no longer fashionable. Lets review what trends should go in the bin, or to the back of the closet.

Flower Crowns

OMG FML please can everyone stop wearing these I beg you. You are not at coachella, you are not a hippy (if you are then please continue as you were), and you are definitely not fooling anyone with those plastic flowers. They were cool for a minute but now everyone is either over them or overusing them. Byeeee flower crowns!

Image from buzzfeed.com

The Casual Sneaker

This quirky trend has swiftly made its way from the runway to the streets, and in 2015 the sneaker trend is only going to become even more popular. Trainers and sneakers are no longer kept for gym sessions and long walks, they can be worn with everything from dresses to smart suits (aka Cara Delevigne in DKNY).

Choose an eccentric pair that stands out, and make them the focal point of the outfit to create a statement. Not only are sneakers super comfortable, they add an effortless style to an otherwise boring outfit. Find your pair and get involved!

Image from instyle.com

Floppy Felt Hats

Felt floppy hats are the signature trend of summer/winter 2015, and they are so flattering and stylish. I love how they just flop perfectly in all the right places, and they are suited to a day or night time look. Colours such as beige or black are a must, so you can make full use of the hat by coordinating outfits. Incorporate a chic low bun or a natural wavy hairstyle with the hat to pull the whole look together, and keep it simple like I always say!

Image from shopmodmint.com

My Mozambican Escape

Hi everyone I'm back! After a much needed break away from my crazy busy life last year, I am home and feeling refreshed and ready to tackle 2015 in a big way (watch this space).

So I was lucky enough to spend 8 beautiful days in Malongane, Mozambique. Mozambique is one of those destinations that is right on our doorsteps as South Africans, and we sometimes forget how lucky we are to experience paradise only a few hours away from home. Our car trip to the place we were staying was a bumpy one, but the sandy roads didn't stop us from taking in the beautiful surroundings as we drove. As soon as you cross the border from South Africa to Mozambique, you immediately take note of the sticky humid air, the untamed palm trees and the sand crunching between your toes. Adventure awaits!

The Camel Trench Coat

So it is still blazing hot here in South Africa but I cant help but pick up the camel trench coat trend. It is classy, stylish and effortless, yet can make any outfit look good simply by draping it over your shoulders. I am strangely envious that I don't have the opportunity to wear one until winter, but I am most definitely on the hunt for one of these coats as soon as they hit the stores.

Image from rstyle.me

The Price of Fame

I have found myself feeling more and more unhinged by the growing popularity and frequency of trashy reality television programmes. Jersey Shore, Geordie Shore, The Valleys... one reality show progressively worse than the other but in a different country. It seems to be this strange mixture of personal intrigue and voyeurism into another persons life. Why do we find ourselves so interested in the over-dramatized, embarrassing and often explicit antics of these complete strangers? Do we see parts of ourselves that we recognize, or do we yearn to be as open and free-spirited as them?